please this is not a joke.....i am hurting right now..need to know how to get over accept my sons death.(reputured appendix)..i haved lived with this hurt for the last 15yr..he was my baby %26amp; died,..i know i need to move on.i dewell on his life everyday.know i am not healthy because of this .some serious advice..no jokes please.almost 2008,..my son is not here with me
No jokes please, i am serious, how do you deal with your only childs death after 15%26amp;yet feel like you can't go-Myspace pictures
I'm so sorry about your loss. It doesn't matter how long it's been. You are a mother and you have experienced the most painful thing that a mother could go through. The fact that you can talk about it and are asking for help is a testament to your strength. Do you have family? Are there loved ones that you can lean on at this time? If so you need to share your feelings with them, and also maybe seek some professional help. They say that time heals all wounds, but it doesn't. It just puts a little distance between what's happened and now. I don't know what else to say, except that you are in my prayers.
No jokes please, i am serious, how do you deal with your only childs death after 15%26amp;yet feel like you can't go
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I do feel so sad for you,that's worse than losing a limb,but i hope you can pass that love onto other children,in the name of yours Report It
im really sorry. but you know what, he would have wanted you to move on and live a happy life.
you should be in therapy and talking with people who can actually help you move on. Poeple on yahoo answers cant do that.
It's such a common thing, but surround yourself with things and people you love. Focus on the good he brought your life and know he is somewhere better and not suffering. What is meant to be it meant to be, it cannot be changed.
Good luck.
its okay for you to hurt, but you need to have faith, that one day you will reunite again..
your son loves you. hes probably watching over you guys, and remember, one wants to be forgotten. but don't be sad everyday b/c hes gone. he don't want to see you sad b/c hes not there. Hes actually there and don't want to see you crying and upset.
he wishes to comfort you and help you, but he can't and that only makes it harder for him. if you are happy, then he'll be happy.
I don't know how I would deal with that. It would be devastating, to say the least. But, it's been 15 years, and if you're still hurting this bad, perhaps you should be in some sort of therapy or support group?
I am sorry for your loss. There are groups especially for parents who have lost children. That can be very helpful for you to speak with others who have gone through the pain you are dealing with. Contact your local organization- Good luck!
A boy in my grade died of Leukemia, and his parents of course were devestated because Andy was their only child. After two years, they adopted twin girls from a foreign country and while the two will never replace Andy, they have children that they can love and adore just the same.
15? Wow. You're going through tough times, I know that. To be honest, I'm only 14 right now and one of my closest friends died last month. Car crash.
I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL. I'm not kidding. But to be serious, there really is NOT much I can say. You just have to STAY STRONG. I'll be saying all this cliche crap, but you really have to. It's been 15 years. You ARE lingering on his death, dwelling on the past, and you DO have to move on. It's time. You know? Give yourself a reality check. You HAVE TO. You KNOW you have to move on. DO IT. Keep yourself busy. That's the thing. You have a job, try to step that up. Go on vacation. Get involved in community volunteering. Try to give back and help other people. It's the perfect way to move on and to keep busy. If you keep yourself busy, you probably won't even have TIME to think about your baby boy. That's the thing. I know you know you have to let go. Instead of thinking it and just saying it, you have to DO it. He's looking down on you right now, watching. He's still there. Be a good influence and accomplish more, get more productive in life. Later, after all this, you'll be able to share with your son what you have done. I can assure you, he'll be the proudest person ever. : )
Good luck.
I am sorry about your loss. You need Jesus. He is the only one to ease the pain and the hurt. Nothing or no one else can. If you don't have a relationship with Him, get one. It is clear that you need help. Pray and talk to Him. He will give you all you need. You will never "get over the loss", you learn to live or cope with it. But you have to be willing to want to let it go. Grief is a crutch to you. I am not blaming you, but God is the only one to help you out with this. Trust me, you will be satisfied and will feel better. I pray that God continues to bless and keep you. I also pray for His strength and His Spirit to over shadow your heart and mind. God Bless
There are grief support groups for parents whose child has died. See if you can find one in your area. I just did an online search for death child support group and got a lot of hits. My local newspaper runs a weekly list of support groups. See if your paper does. (That is more likely in a medium or small city, not a big one.) Call or visit your local public library and see if they have a list. Look in the yellow pages under the heading support groups.
I think you are wise to seek someone to talk to. Keep in mind, however, that some level of pain will always be there. From what I understand of parents who have lost a child, it is possible, however, to limit the amount of pain/grief one feels, over time.
Good luck with your efforts.
You never get over the death of a loved one because you never stop loving them and a part of yourself dies with them. The pain of your loss is always there but you need to deal with it and move forward. Remember, life is for the living and life goes on. Your son wouldn't want his death to destroy your life because he loved you.
Seek out grief counseling and grief therapy in your area. It really does help you get through the pain and move forward. It's easy to get stuck in the grieving process and then you can't get over it. A lot of people need help with it - especially when it involves the loss of their child.
Look around you dear.
EVERY human you see has lost family and friends to death. Life goes on for the rest of us.
And your son i s still with you, and will be, for as long as you live and remember him.
Losing a child is the hardest thing of all, but look around and see who needs your love now. Help other people in need, volunteer your services to a soup kichen, go to a nursing home where visiting old people makes their day, teach kids what you know. Helping others will ease your pain, and give your life new meaning. I hope the New Year will bring you peace.
Try a group called Compassionate Friends. They were helpful when I lost my 9 yr old daughter...having said that...nothing will ever take the pain away, it eases somewhat, but is forever there. Unlike you , I have 2 sons as well, so I feel for you all the more not having other children. One of the hardest things is wondering what her life would have been like...what she would be doing now...try some support groups with people who have gone through the same thing, they are the only ones who truly know how you feel.
i lost my first baby when i was pregnant now is 2years when i remember him i cry always you have to forget him and cry when you remember him you will be fine like me
I've heard good things about Compassionate friends too. There are other support groups, on line and in person for bereaved parents.
My brother died, my parents had other children but I'm not sure it made it easier for them. What perhaps did make it easier for everyone, including my mother, was that my mother had also lost a brother and her mother mourned endlessly - so much so that there could never be any celebration because Joe wouldn't be there.
My mother was determined that her sorrow would not cast a pall over everyone's life. Of course there were always little sad smiles and stray tears - but we still celebrated events.
You cannot avoid hurting, having a child makes one a hostage to fate. Celebrate your son's life in a positive way - a donation to a food bank, buy basketballs for a youth group in his name, plant a tree, donate a park bench, do a little scholarship (like a gift certificate for $50 books) at the school he went to. Don't dwell on his death, rejoice in his life.
And I do wish you a happier New Year.
my dear friend the way i look at is this way he is up in heaven watching over you and he would love for u to move with life i have lost a brother and he was 4 months old and my family lied to me and after 40 years i finally found a death cert
now i look at it in a different way when i see the sun shine he is happy and jumping for he has a job and i know he is my guarden angel watching over me in my time of distress
sometimes we may not know why they are taken away from us on earth and we will never know til we met in heaven that is why we have guardian angels watching over us
my favorite song is in the arms of an angel for sometimes i can feel someone hugging me and that is the angel that was once yours
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